The Victorian Polyamory community




PolyOz website and discussion list

Pleasure Activism

Some US-based sites

Polyamory.org including the delightful “How to f#@& up: Guide of carefully tested methods for making mistakes in polyamorous relationships”.

Online poly magazine Loving More

PolyFamilies – an excellent site especially for people with questions about polyfidelity, living in a community, and child-rearing.

More than Two – a really good site with a mature sensible approach to poly issues and some great FAQs.

The Polyamory Society – more of a political poly site with mission statements and good links to other poly sites. If you’re interested in legal questions or in poly activism in the US this is a good site to start with.

Liberated Christians

Relationship LLC


“Unmasking the Green-Eyed Monster: Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola.

“Models of Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola.

“What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory” by Geri D. Weitzman – this is a good article to give your therapist if they’re not poly-savvy.

“Beyond Same Sex Marriage – Legal Recognition for Multipartner Relationships” by Heather Kitching.

“Polyamory: An Anthropological Study” by Natalie Perry.

Some general opinions on why there is such opposition to polyamory.

An interesting example of one thought-out poly relationship ‘contract’


The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt. This is a frank, funny, wise and sometimes confronting book looking at a really wide variety of polyamory issues. Melbournian bookshops known to stock it are ‘Hares & Hyenas’ (63 Johnston Street, Fitzroy – phone 9495 6589) and ‘Polyester Books’ (330 Brunswick St, Fitzroy – phone 9419 5223). Best to call these shops first as stocks can run out.

Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships by Dr. Deborah M. Anapol. This book is in a more traditional “self-help book” format, and is less confronting and a little more formal than The Ethical Slut. Full of good stuff based on practical experience and research, and a good book to give to more conventional family members if you are coming out to them, and if they need more information – it looks reassuringly “normal”!

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. Based on 100+ interviews, it offers concrete advice on the full spectrum of relationships from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory.

Border Sexualities, Border Families in Schools by Maria Pallotta Chiarolli.

Understanding Non-Monogamies by Meg Barker.

The New Intimacy: Open-Ended Marriage and Alternative Lifestyles by Ronald Mazur.

The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People by David P. Barash Ph.D. and Judith Eve Lipton M.D.

Survivors of an Open Marriage by Jennifer Gates.

Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships by Wendy-O Matik.

Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples by Nena O’Neill and George O’Neil.

Threesome: How to Fulfill Your Favorite Fantasy by Lori Gammon and Bill Strong.

Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful by Anthony D. Ravenscroft.

The Lesbian Polyamory Reader: Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Casual Sex edited by Marcia Munson and Judith P. Stelboum.

Love You Two by Maria Pallotta-Chiarolli. A novel from the viewpoint of a teenage girl journeying through the discovery and eventual understanding of her parents’ polyamory.

Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block.

Note: The PolyChromatic Web site also provides a list of poly-related books.

Children’s Books

Strange Stories for Strange Kids by Art Spiegelman. This includes a story called “The Little House That Ran Away”, which tells the story of a house who runs away and meets and marries two other characters Huff and Puff (and they have little House Huff and House Puff children).

Elsie-Marie and Her Seven Little Daddies by Gabrielle Charbonnet and Pija Lindenbaum.



Bandits starring Bruce Willis, Cate Blanchette and Billy-Bob Thornton. A lively comedy with the delicious line (from Cate): “What if I don’t want to (choose)?”

Ordinary Decent Criminal starring Kevin Spacey. A comedy about an Irish criminal who has ‘married’ two sisters.


When Two Won’t Do A moving self-made Canadian documentary of the progression of a poly relationship.

Poly People by Muffy Potter. A six-minute look at one Australian poly family.


The Family Short web series of a poly family

The Twelve Poly Days of Christmas – a humourous poly song on YouTube.